Thursday, April 8, 2010

Hey There Hi There It’s Me

Ultimate Blog Party 2010

 

Here in our little home, and I mean a little home lives a family, just an ordinary family with one exception it is made up of Grandpa, Grandma, and our precious Granddaughter.

dep_show_line_item6How did this come to be? Some of you know the story while some of you do not and you have been so kind or scared to ask. I have not shared our story with you in this sort of way, but decided to come out (no not the closet) but just share how we became a family.

Our daughter who is 27 yrs old, is developmentally delayed, I don’t have any other term to describe her disabilities, since it was caused from the cord being wrapped around her neck 3 times at birth cutting off the oxygen supply to her brain. She never seems to make good choices, and well, let’s just say right down lazy. She wasn’t raised that way, believe me, she has the skills to take care of herself and a home and yes even a family but she chooses NOT to.

Anyway she met a man, who is not of a good character, got married and then ended up pregnant. Our first instinct was to try to teach her a hard lesson knowing that the State would take the baby and let her try to jump through the hoops to maybe learn from the experience, but then our hearts leaped a thousand miles high and we couldn’t help the feeling by doing so we might never get our grandchild nor know what ever became of him/her.

We persuaded Mom to come and move in with us in hopes by getting away from this man who ruled her every being, and told her how to think, talk, you name it he dictated her every move, then having this child, that she would decide just how important the child was and stay and help raise her. To assure that the baby would stay with us, we hired an attorney and got permanent custody of the baby.

Well, as it worked out after the baby was born our daughter in her lazy way decided the baby was too much work, and left our residency to return to the man or father of the child.

There you have it this is how we became our little family in this little house.

If I win, I would like:

#34

#36

#39

#18

#7

What are you waiting for, join in on the 2010 Blog Party. Go here for more details.

Pin It

75 comments:

  1. Your daughter's struggles must be so difficult. Selena is blessed to have you. Happy UBP!

    ReplyDelete
  2. I'm glad Selena has the two of you to watch out for her - she seems just precious.

    ReplyDelete
  3. What a story. Thank you so much for sharing! I'm sure it wasn't easy- but knowing this background just adds to your witness of all that God has done in your lives and Selena's. He's been watching out for Selena from the git-go! I am sorry to hear that your daughter is having such a rough time of it. Blessings on you my friend!

    ReplyDelete
  4. Visiting you from UBP!!! Have a great party yourself!!!!!I am now following your blog, you can follow mine at www.safehomehappymom.com

    ReplyDelete
  5. I'm so glad you got Selena, because otherwise I might never have gotten to know you. But, I know this is a hard thing still.

    ReplyDelete
  6. Hi. I'm in a (very) small home too, though I'm not raising a grandchild. I would if I had to someday, though, because that's what we do. I've known people who were raising grandchildren while "mom" was running around drinking and gambling. Not the situation they thought they'd be in at this point in their lives, for sure. Great to meet you!

    ReplyDelete
  7. I am still considering whether to join UBP. Another blog post to write :) On the other hand, it's a good opportunity to meet new blogs. Good luck on winning prizes :)

    ReplyDelete
  8. It is heartbreaking to watch the child you love make so many poor choices. I am glad you are able to provide stability for your granddaughter. Just stopped by from the party!

    ReplyDelete
  9. Hi there.

    I was just skipping through during the blog party & thought I would introduce myself. My name is Christina, and I am addicted to God, my family, blogging & taking pictures.

    Thanks for sharing your story with us. I will pray for you & your family.

    Amen.

    ReplyDelete
  10. What a blessing you must be to your granddaughter! Visiting from the UBP.
    http://1savvyhousewife.blogspot.com/

    ReplyDelete
  11. I cannot imagine the trials you have been through because as a parent, you want what is best for your child. Thank goodness you have your granddaughter, because you know she is in a safe environment. It is sad how some parents pick abusive spouses over their children.

    ReplyDelete
  12. just stopping in from UBP! You have made an eternal impact on your grand-daughters life and I applaud you for your choice!

    ReplyDelete
  13. Thank you for sharing. I admit I was/am curious. So glad Selena has you!

    ReplyDelete
  14. Stopping in from the UBP. Come say hi when you can.

    http://www.ourhomeschoolhome.com/2010/04/ultimate-blog-party.html

    ReplyDelete
  15. you're a strong and giving lady. Stopping by from the UBP. Have a great day!

    ReplyDelete
  16. I'm so glad to have met you.
    I have 2 special needs kids (28 & 16). Plus a gifted child (18). All boys. The hardest one right now is our 28 yro who has been in and out of our home. At present he is in. No matter what we try to do for him he takes advantage of us. At present he is trying to get SSDI. He was turned down, although Voc Rehab says he needs to get a lawyer & fight it because according to the SSDI Dr. he is eligible.
    Anyhoo, here I am visiting from *UBP 2010* Have a great weekend.

    ReplyDelete
  17. I probably don't have to tell you this but stay Faithful!
    God loves you guys and He has placed that cutie of a granddaughter right in your care. We may never understand the trials our families go through or choices people make but know your God is always there. ((HUGS))
    I hope you win something I signed up for the blog party too. :)
    Kelly K

    ReplyDelete
  18. Blessings to your household!
    I'm Cindy from themommaven.com stopping by for the party!

    ReplyDelete
  19. What a touching story! You are such a strong and courageous woman for what you're doing. Keep up the good work!

    Stop by FTSN for a slice of peanut butter pie when you get the chance. www.fromthesamenest.com

    {Maria}

    ReplyDelete
  20. I'm visiting from the UBP. Thank you for sharing your story. What a blessing you must be to your granddaughter (and I'm sure she is a blessing to you, too!). Enjoy the party!

    ReplyDelete
  21. what a story you have to share as a mom of 6 and grandma to 1 I feel for you but know that you all must have a very tight bond.

    ReplyDelete
  22. your granddaughter is precious - I commend you for taking over her care - I bet she brightens your lives in so many ways...

    thanks for stoppin' by my place - party on!

    ReplyDelete
  23. Thank you so much for stopping by and for sharing your story. It took a lot of courage to do what you have done but your beautiful granddaughter is definitely worth it. So inspiring!

    Have a great UBP!

    ReplyDelete
  24. Hi! Good to see you at the "party"! Thanks for stopping by to say hello, hope you have a great time!

    ReplyDelete
  25. Stopping by from the UBP 2010 party! I am so glad to hear that you are able to take care of your granddaughter. I have a close friend and her husband that is taking care of her three grandchildren as well in similar circumstances.. I also see by your blog you homeschool. We do too.. Looking forward to reading more of your blog..

    ReplyDelete
  26. It is wonderful what you are doing for your granddaughter. Nice to meet you and happy blog party week :)

    ReplyDelete
  27. Your granddaughter is lucky to have a loving home. Enjoy the rest of ubp!

    ReplyDelete
  28. I came from UBP. Thank you for sharing your story with us. You have a great deal of strength, and I applaud everything you said and did!

    ReplyDelete
  29. Your granddaughter is beautiful...and the story of how you've stepped up to raise her is beautiful. :^)

    Hope you can pop on over to my place this week: http://tinahollenbeck.blogspot.com/2010/04/2010-ultimate-blog-party.html.

    ReplyDelete
  30. Wow! Thank goodness your grandbaby has grandparents with sense! I have a feeling (and have had) that my sister is in a similar situation..in fact...so similar it's almost eerie...only she just had her baby 1 month ago. Waiting to see what happens! Found you through the UBP!

    ReplyDelete
  31. Since our pie wasn't ready earlier, we thought you might like a bedtime snack.

    http://www.fromthesamenest.com/2010/04/peanut-butter-pie.html

    ReplyDelete
  32. I hope that you enjoy the UBP too! Thank you for sharing this story with us. Selena is blessed to have such wonderful grandparents to take care of her. I am always inspired by the wonderful things that you do with her. Have a great weekend :0)

    ReplyDelete
  33. What great parents you are. God bless you.

    ReplyDelete
  34. aaww thank you for sharing your story..it actually made me cry. I'm glad selena has grandparents that loves her :)

    ReplyDelete
  35. I'm so sorry to hear about your daughter - I do hope it all works out down the road! Nice to meet you and thanks for the visit today for the UBP

    ReplyDelete
  36. What an amazing story. You really are great grandparents that that little girl is so lucky to have you. Love the picture at the top, it's super sweet.

    Party On!
    Party With Tiff (UBP post)

    ReplyDelete
  37. What an amazing story! Your granddaughter is so blessed to have you in her life. I'll be praying for you as you raise her.

    Many Blessings to you.

    ReplyDelete
  38. I am visiting from the UBP and Wow, I praise you for taking care of that little princess. I am sure at a time that was a tough decision but I am sure that you are making her a happy little girl.

    You can find me at #1237 on the Linky or http://lovemy2dogs.blogspot.com/2010/04/im-finally-arriving-at-ultimate-blog.html

    ReplyDelete
  39. Wow! You are an amazing woman. We have family that has gone through something similar and I know how frustrating it is to deal with. Thank goodness your granddaughter has you to help guide her in the right direction. It was nice to meet you.

    ReplyDelete
  40. Happy UBP! I appreciate your candidness and honesty!

    ReplyDelete
  41. You're a wonderful mom, an amazing grandmother and both are so blessed to have you. We all have a story, thank you for sharing yours.

    I've got my Ultimate Blog Party 2010 post up at Dayngrous Discourse. Plus, I've got my first giveaway too. I hope you'll surf on over and say hello.

    ReplyDelete
  42. Very open and honest of you to share your story with the world. That's a noble thing that you've done.

    Nice to meet you and Happy partying!

    ReplyDelete
  43. As a former social worker/case manager, I know how crucial grandparents are in situations like this. You are doing a great thing for your granddaughter.

    ReplyDelete
  44. Hi, Stopping by from UBP 2010 - my first. There are so many women like your daughter, who keep going back to a bad situation. I've never understood it. Your granddaughter is lucky to have ya'll.

    ReplyDelete
  45. I am sorry you have had to go through so much with your daughter but thankful that your granddaughter is safely able to thrive under your care! Best wishes!

    MacKenzie
    theresearchyears.blogspot.com
    mamakenzstudio.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  46. I think its great that you didn't just step in but tried to help your daughter step up :)

    It saddens my heart to know your story but happy knowing your grnaddaughter has so much love from you :)

    ReplyDelete
  47. Stopping by from the UBP! :-) When my twins were 18 months old, my husband's ex basically abandoned my stepkids (she seemed to feel she was done raising them even though they were just 13 and 15 years old at the time)... that was almost 4 years ago and they have been living with us ever since. So, definitely know the struggles of unexpectedly having to raise someone else's children...

    I'm kind of blog-hopping right now, but following you so I can be sure to come back later! :-D

    ReplyDelete
  48. Just “party hopping!” Very, very nice to “meet you” :) So many blogs, so little time!! LOL!

    Your granddaughter is beautiful. She is so lucky to have such loving grandparents and you her!

    Lois

    Visit my party post at:
    http://makingourfamilycomplete.blogspot.com/2010/04/ultimate-blog-party-join-in-win-prizes.html

    ReplyDelete
  49. I know 3 girls who are the same as your daughter. They left their children with their parents and continued to make wrong decisions. I tell my friend's mom this and I will say it to you too; she will eventually realize what she's missing.

    My oldest daughter's father was the same way. He brain washed and manipulated me. He almost took me away from my family and my friends because of the way he had me thinking. Some men are just VERY good at that. I wised up before I ended up married to him, thank God... But my daughter is great not having him in her life. He wasn't a good person.

    Stopping by from the Ultimate Blog Party!! Following your blog now! Hopefully you can stop by mine and follow as well! Have a great weekend!

    http://theartsymom.tk

    ReplyDelete
  50. Hopping over from the UBP. Your grand-daughter is very blessed to have grandparents that love her so much!

    Stop by and visit me sometime.

    http://www.howaretheharmons.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  51. Great to meet you! Came by from the UBP! Your granddaughter is adorable! What a blessing that you are raising her!~

    ReplyDelete
  52. Dropping by from UBP. You're granddaughter is blessed that you were able and willing to look after her. She looks some cute!

    ReplyDelete
  53. Hello. I'm stopping by from the UBP. Nice to meet your family- your grandaughter is so lucky to have you.

    Jen
    Creative and Curious Kids!

    ReplyDelete
  54. What an amazing story! I'm sorry about your daughter but what a blessing it is to have you there for her daughter! God Bless you! Happy UBP!

    Feel free to come by my blog and read my Ultimate Blog Party ’10 post!
    Become a reader & stay informed of upcoming giveaways!

    ReplyDelete
  55. Stopping by from the UBP! I'm subscribing to your RSS so I can get to know you better afetr all the blog hopping :)

    ReplyDelete
  56. Wow you have an amazing testimony. Thanks for sharing the hardships in your life. You will probably inspire others to step up in necessary situations. Bless you!

    ReplyDelete
  57. Just left a party and decided to stop by and follow you. I'm #851 "Sites 2 Literacy"; stop by and follow me too. You are such beautiful grandparents:-)

    ReplyDelete
  58. Hi there! Just popping in from the UBP to be your newest Google Follower! Hooray! Hope you had a great weekend and have a great week! Swing by my blog when you get a chance!

    Bridgette Groschen
    The Groschen Goblins
    www.groschengoblins.com

    ReplyDelete
  59. I'm party hopping on the UBP and just wanted to drop in and say hello from NY! She is lucky to be part of your loving family.

    ReplyDelete
  60. Your granddaughter is so cute. Visiting from the UBP and I am the newest follower.

    Hope you have a great week.

    www.lifeofamodernmom.com

    ReplyDelete
  61. Well I'm glad you did the right thing. While I'm sorry your daughter made such terrible choices...what a blessing for you!

    ReplyDelete
  62. Wow what a story you have. You have unbelievable strength and compassion. So glad to meet you.

    ReplyDelete
  63. Just wanted to say hello. You are a great person for raising a little one. My mom and dad also raise my half-sister's two children. As I read your story, so many things rang true about my half-sis as well. My niece is now 6 and my nephew is 10, and they have lived with my parents since my niece was born. It's a tough road, but also very rewarding. As a social worker, I cannot thank you enough for raising this beautiful little girl and not allowing her to slip through the system.
    Roxanne
    http://stinkermama.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  64. What a blessing you and your husband are to little Serena.

    ReplyDelete
  65. What a blessing to have grandparents that love you so much.

    Stopping by from The Ultimate Blog Party by 5 Minutes for Mom

    Andrea

    ReplyDelete
  66. Hi there, I'm stopping in via UBP. I am deeply touched by your story. Selena is blessed to have you. Grandparents are treasured people.

    I hope you can stop by our blog: http://inspiredgiftsblog.blogspot.com
    Inspiredgifts.com is a mom owned newly launched site.

    Have a beautiful day
    Rebecca

    ReplyDelete
  67. hi from anoter UBPartier!

    what a story that is! glad you are there for your granddaugher! :)

    laura

    www.tothemotherland.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  68. Thanks so much for joining the party and sharing your story!

    ReplyDelete
  69. Hi and nice to meet you! I've followed you Twitter and GFC. Feel free to stop by and visit ($15 GC to Babies R Us/Toys R Us Giveaway). Happy UBP10!
    http://hsuperparents.blogspot.com

    ReplyDelete
  70. I'm NOT here for the UBP, just being nosy!:) I have to admit, I was a bit curious as to how Selena came to live with you. I can't imagine how difficult it is to watch your child make such poor choices. People do mess up and it's so hard to see. I pray that your relationship with your daughter is restored. In the meantime, Selena is so fortunate to have you caring for her! You are amazing. Blessings!:)

    ReplyDelete
  71. hello, nice to meet you. here for the ubp. wolfbayou@yahoo.com

    ReplyDelete
  72. What a great thing for you to do for your granddaughter.

    Sometimes we think we should just take our Grandson- we do most everything for him when he's here anyway!

    Have a great blog-hopping evening!

    ReplyDelete
  73. Just stopping in from UBP 2010 (Little late, I know ;) )!!! Joined your following, can't wait to see what you post in the months to come!! Party on ;) *G*

    ~Steph
    www.consignmentsalequeen.com

    ReplyDelete
  74. Looking forward to reading about your little family in your little house!

    Blessings

    Jennifer
    jennifersikora.com

    ReplyDelete